Dear Becky,

My boyfriend just asked me to move in with him and I'm so excited!  The only problem is that he wants me to move into the house he got with his ex-wife and refuses to consider getting a new place together.

He says he loves the house and is happy to make new memories there with me, but I don't feel comfortable starting a new life with someone in a place he shared with the ex.  What should I do?


Dear Cathy,

Belive it or not, I have been through an experience like yours.  If he is not willing to get a new place with you there will be trouble.  The house will begin to "haunt" you.  His ex will be everywhere, even though she is not.  I remember my ex would not even let me move any of the pictures that were hung up.  Don't move in. If he is not willing to get a new place with you, exit this relationship as soon as possible.  I know it will hurt, but it will be much worse if you move in.  Good luck!  Run, girlfriend, run!